Hot Flash Chronicles

44. RERUN - Attributes: Abs Are Nice, but Can You Make Me Laugh?

Attributes: Abs Are Nice, but Can You Make Me Laugh? 💪😂☕
What We Value in People Now (Spoiler: It’s Not a Six-Pack)
This episode is all about the attributes we seek in people—and how those evolve as we do. From six-pack abs to strong coffee game, Angie & Shelly reflect on how friendship, partnership, and human connection shift with age, experience, and (let’s be honest) lower back pain.
🪞 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
💡 What Matters Most—Now vs. Then – How our friendship and relationship checklists have changed since our twenties.
👀 Compliment Culture – The power of non-physical compliments and why being told “your energy lights up a room” hits different.
💬 The Value of Depth – Why we’re not impressed by status anymore, and what we actually look for in new friendships and old flames.
☕ Coffee, Kindness & Capacity – How things like being present, showing up, and bringing coffee rank higher than looks or likes.
🌱 Planting Seeds of Belonging – From encouraging grandkids to showing up for friends, we talk about the lasting impact of authentic praise and connection.
👯 It’s About Energy Now – Can we sit in silence? Can we belly laugh? Can we Uber Eats and chill? That’s the vibe.
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💬 We want to hear from you—what attributes do you value most in someone now? What used to matter that doesn’t anymore? Sound off in the comments and let’s celebrate the glow-up.

43. RERUN - Guilty Pleasures

Shelly and Angie are on vacay this week so we are re-releasing some of our faves!
Let’s talk about the little indulgences that keep us sane, even if they come with a side of “should I feel bad about this?” (Spoiler: you shouldn’t)
In this laughter-filled episode, Angie and Shelly unpack their favorite guilty pleasures—aka, the simple, sensory joys that help us decompress. From trash TV and midday naps to buttered popcorn and Manhattan cocktails, we’re peeling back the layers of “shame” and calling these what they really are: self-care moments in disguise.
💅 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
💄 Pampering Without a Purpose – Manis, pedis, flutters, and the casual glam that makes us feel human again
📺 Trashy Reality TV and Cozy Movie Days – Background noise or a full-blown binge, either way we’re not sorry
🧁 Baking as Therapy – Sourdough stretching, cookie icing, and why the doughy details just feel so damn good
🛋️ Lazy Day Protocols – Jammies, popcorn, old musicals, zero productivity, and naps with the dogs
🥃 Manhattans, Eggnog, and the Cost of Drinking at Home – When the only thing stopping a six drink Tuesday is the price tag
📚 Books That Make Us Blush – From Sarah J. Maas to accidental 151-proof eggnog, the things we read, sip, and secretly love
💧 Why Crying at British Baking Shows Is Totally Normal – Dumping the emotional bucket one happy tear at a time
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💬 Let’s normalize joy that doesn’t require permission. What’s your not-so-guilty pleasure these days? Tell us below—or message us with your favorite nap + snack combo. We might just steal it.

42. Special Guest - Sue Bryce

🎙️ Hot Flash Chronicles – Episode: Menopause, Mentorship, and the Power of No 💥🙅‍♀️
Legendary photographer Sue Bryce joins us to talk about hormones, boundaries, burnout, and becoming your most authentic self—even when you're in the hot seat of menopause
In our first-ever guest episode, Angie and Shelly welcome mentor, icon, and powerhouse Sue Bryce to the mic. Sue gets raw and real about the rollercoaster of perimenopause, the reality of rage, and what it’s like being a woman with influence during the most emotionally intense season of her life. This conversation is honest, emotional, and wildly empowering—no topic off limits.
💬 What You'll Hear in This Episode:
🔥 Menopause Meltdowns – Crippling anxiety, rage outbursts, and the overwhelm no one warned us about
🧬 What’s Actually Happening in Our Bodies – From blood sugar to brain fog to the 38 symptoms no one mentions
👯‍♀️ Mentorship & Responsibility – Why being looked up to feels different for women and what it means to lead with truth
🚫 The Art of Saying No – Boundaries, balance, burnout, and what happens when you betray yourself with a yes you didn’t mean
🧠 Neurodiversity Meets Hormones – How ADHD and menopause make a wild (and sometimes brutal) combo
💖 The Midlife Rebirth – Losing yourself to find yourself again—and why your 50s might just be your most powerful years yet
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💬 Feeling seen after this episode? Good. That’s the whole point.Tag a woman who needs to know she’s not alone in this wild hormonal ride—and tag a man who needs to learn what it really means to love and support a woman through menopause.
 

40. All the Hats We Wear

🎙️ Hot Flash Chronicles – Episode: All the Hats We Wear 👒🧢🎓🍼
From grandma to grocery planner, career woman to chaos manager, women are doing it all—and we’re finally talking about it
In this episode, Angie and Shelly dig into the many roles women hold in everyday life. Mom, sister, wife, daughter, grandma, friend, boss, partner, caregiver—each one comes with a different version of us. Sometimes we’re the one seeking wisdom, other times we’re the one giving it. We talk about the pressure to "do it all," the joy (and stress) of multitasking, and how exhausting it can be trying to juggle so many identities without losing yourself in the process.
🎭 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
🧠 The Myth of Having It All – Why the "do everything" mindset is burning us out and what we actually need instead
👵 Grandmas vs. Moms – Why it’s not about handing the kid back when they cry, it’s about not carrying the mental load 24/7
🧺 Invisible Labor – From planning the meals to knowing the dentist appointments, the "command center" role women often take on
👯 Being a Sister, Aunt, Step-Mom – Each role activates a different version of us and teaches something new
👨‍👩‍👧‍👧 Co-Parenting and Blended Families – The awkward, the beautiful, and the complicated
🧘 The Case for Grace – How to stop measuring your worth by your output and give yourself credit for showing up
😵‍💫 Mental Exhaustion is Real – It’s not just about sleep—it’s about how much you’re carrying inside your brain every day
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💬 Which role do you love most right now? Which one drains you the fastest? And how do you refill your cup when you're wearing a dozen hats? Come join the convo—we're all in this together.

39. Girls Trips Gone Right (and Wrong)

🎙️ Hot Flash Chronicles – Episode: Girls Trips Gone Right (and Wrong) ✈️🍷
From wine tasting to awkward hotel moments, here’s what we’ve learned about traveling with your friends
In this episode, Angie and Shelly are talking all things girls trips—the fun, the bonding, the potential disasters, and why your female friendships deserve that time away. Whether you’ve had the ultimate getaway or the kind that made you question the whole friendship, we’re unpacking it all… just in time for their upcoming Napa trip.
✨ What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
👯‍♀️ Why Girls Trips Matter – How time away lets you be more than a mom, wife, or caretaker and reconnect with your own identity
💡 The Unspoken Rules of Traveling Together – Morning routines, sleep habits, alone time, and who’s bringing the matches for the bathroom
🎒 The Overpacking Problem – Seven purses, three types of bug spray, and the suitcase full of just-in-case stuff you’ll never use
🥂 Expectations vs. Reality – How the myth of the girls trip can differ from the real thing and what actually makes it great
📍 Planning, Flexibility, and the Money Talk – How to navigate different budgets, activity levels, and personalities before you board the plane
🌍 Lessons from the Road – From rain-soaked monuments in D.C. to the Napa wineries, why shared experiences create the best memories
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💬 Going on a girls trip soon? Already learned the hard way how to survive one? Tell us your tips, your fails, and your favorite memory—we love a good travel story.

38. If We Could Talk to Our Younger Selves

🎙️ Hot Flash Chronicles – Episode: If We Could Talk to Our Younger Selves 💭✨
The lessons we learned the hard way, what we’d do differently, and the things younger us really needed to hear
In this episode, Angie and Shelly dive into the advice they wish they could give their younger selves, from believing in your worth to letting go of other people’s opinions. It’s real talk about people pleasing, confidence, money mindset, and learning to love yourself—without waiting decades to figure it out.
💡 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
💭 Advice We Wish We’d Known – From self esteem to trusting your gut, we’re sharing the life lessons we wish landed sooner
🚫 People Pleasing Woes – How worrying about everyone else’s opinions slowed us down and how we broke the cycle
💵 Relationship with Money – Shifting from scarcity to confidence and how your self worth affects your income
💥 Taking Risks & Failing Forward – Why playing it too safe can hold you back and how we learned to see failure as part of the process
🪞 Confidence Over Looks – Your jeans size, your wrinkles, your weight… none of that defines you. Who you are does.
🚀 Dreaming Without Limits – How putting a cap on your dreams holds you back and why we’re done doing that
👶 Loving Little You – Talking to your younger self with grace instead of judgment and rewriting the narrative
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💬 What would you tell your younger self? More confidence? Less people pleasing? Bigger dreams? We want to hear it. Drop your words of wisdom below or tag someone who needs to hear this today.

37. Emotions Have No Gender

🎙️ Hot Flash Chronicles – Episode: Emotions Have No Gender 🧠💬
Crying isn’t weak, joy isn’t extra, strength isn’t just masculine. Let’s unpack the gender rules we never signed up for
In this episode, Angie and Shelly dive into the messy, frustrating, and freeing reality of how emotions are labeled by society. From men being told they can’t cry to women being called bossy for speaking up, this conversation covers the double standards that shape how we express feelings—and why it’s time to ditch those outdated rules.
💭 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
😢 Normalizing Tears – Why crying is a biological release, not a weakness, and how we’ve mislabeled it as feminine for way too long.
💪 Strong Emotions Get Misjudged – When women are assertive they’re bossy. When men cry they’re weak. We’re over it.
👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Raising Boys to Feel – Why teaching boys it’s safe to cry helps create healthier, emotionally available men.
⚡ Masculine and Feminine Energy – How both live in all of us and why being authentic matters more than labels.
🌈 Breaking Gender Boxes – The wild idea that people can just be people and emotions don’t have to come with a gender tag.
🌍 Snap Judgments and Self Reflection – How quick assumptions hurt connection and why unlearning bias makes the world better.
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💬 You get to be loud, soft, bold, quiet, emotional, joyful, sad, or anything else—regardless of gender. Full stop. Want to weigh in? Tell us how you’re challenging old-school gender rules in your life.

36. Our Favorite Firsts

🎙️ Hot Flash Chronicles – Episode: Our Favorite Firsts 💋🚗🎉
From first kisses to first heartbreaks to first cars you could barely park, we’re sharing the hilarious and heartwarming stories of our most memorable firsts
In this episode, Angie and Shelly take a trip down memory lane and talk all about the firsts that shaped them. From old boyfriends to childhood besties, first jobs to first kids, and the cars that got us there, we’re sharing the wins, the cringes, and the moments that made us who we are.
🚀 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
💋 First Kiss Fails and Wins – Sloppy make outs, sneaky crushes, and kissing someone who didn’t know they were your secret boyfriend.
💔 First Heartbreak – Teenage love, rock band romances, secret crushes gone wrong, and how Angie racked up 142 boyfriends in 24 hours.
🚗 First Cars – The legendary Banana Boat and a Country Squire station wagon with actual holes in the floor.
👯 First Best Friends – Chowee and Carrie, playground pranks, and the kindness that stays with you forever.
👶 First Kids – Becoming moms at 20, learning to grow up while raising a tiny human, and the proudest moments we’ve had as parents.
🎤 First Podcast Episode – Celebrity crushes, questionable lighting, and how far we’ve come in 36 episodes.
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💬 Tell us about your favorite first! First kiss, first car, first heartbreak, or the first time you realized you’re stronger than you thought. We want to hear it.